There are times when we feel like tomorrow will never come. I/we feel stuck in the moment and there just is not a clear path forward. Regretfully, all of us tend to live down to this mindset rather than rise above it. The response for most of us is short lived but it still happens. We mope around, mad at the world, believing we are defeated etc. What a sucky place to be. But, there is another way to see ourselves and it takes a little effort to get beyond the current self-annihilation perspective. Let me explain the obvious.
First, especially if you are a bodybuilder, we understand intuitively and experientially, that there are days and sometimes (rarely) weeks where nothing goes right. An injury, a relationship that goes out the window, people who say that they are our friends begin to say bad things about us. A death in the family, a sick child, a personal spiritual crisis. All of these things take their toll on our self-confidence and they tend to derail us, our direction, and our forward movement. Again, these things suck big time. I don’t have a “quick fix” for any of this stuff, but in order to get to our “FINAL DESTINATION” which we alone define, we have to get over the hump.’
For me personally, I try not to define myself by today’s standards or problems. I try to lift up my mind high enough to remember who I am and where I’m going. This effort is Herculean but it is the only remedy for self doubt and a resulting poor self image. Sadly, as we go through these times of darkness others begin to see the downward spiral. Ouch! Let’s not belabor all this.
It is here that we have to remember a few things: 1.). Why you started 2.) What it’s taken to get to where you are 3.) What the plan has been to get to our “FINAL DESTINATION” 4.) Remember where you want to go. Starkly, in writing if necessary, state our own definition of our “FINAL DESTINATION.”
Lastly, never let anybody else define our “FINAL DESTINATION” by where we are at the moment. This is OUR BUSINESS and it is sacred work. Guard your heart with all diligence and let nobody define you by where you are this moment. Bodybuilders are special because we express the journey in ways nobody else will ever understand. Keep at it! I’ll see your at “YOUR FINAL DESTINATION!”-–Call me when you arrive…..LOL
Six Pack and Senior 
As I prepare for competition, I am way short a the waist to shoulder ratio (Adonis, way short). The “experts” say it needs to be above 1.6 and I will not admit to what mine is. Waist to hip is OK (ideal is waist 25% less than hip). Knee to thigh is OK (thigh 6.5 times knee). Bicep to waist OK (bicep 50% of waist. I measured your flexed shoulder to waist from your photo and you are at 1.5 which is very respectable and looks great!
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Correction: thigh 1.75 of knee, for example, my knee is 15, so thigh should be 26.5
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