Six Pack and Senior

But of course, we all “want it all.”  We want to be free to do as we wish anytime any place. We want to be loved the way we want to be loved.  We want happiness ringing throughout the land for all who will receive it.  But, mostly we want things to proceed along a path that we have chosen with as little pain as possible.  Such is the life of a bodybuilder—mine in particular.

The focus is on July 2015 to be in the best shape of my life that night at the Nationals in Pittsburgh, PA.  The process of getting ready is organized, requires discipline and maximum effort.  There is nothing “free” here.  The expectation is that the path be traversed and that those who love you and support the effort are coming along.  Each day brings it’s own set of challenges and there is always a possibility that there will be some challenges that will threaten to destroy you/me and the entire endeavor.  These “super” obstacles have to removed or the journey ends.

When we first fall in love with our challenge we seem to have immeasurable amounts of energy and optimism.  We plan for our eventual victory with a zeal not previously experienced by us.  We do all things in a manner that places the event above all other events in our lives.  Our heart and our confidence in our objective makes our nights glorious and our days full of joy and solid expectation.  Nothing can stop us.

Our training is off the chart!  Our personal discipline and commitment to the goal is unmatched by any previous efforts.  The sweat and pain that I endure only serves to motivate me more and to push my already exhausted muscles forward.  Life is good and the body is turning to flint.  Alignment with the objective changes from being general to straight and direct.

Then, the dreaded and unanticipated obstacle appears.  It could take the form of an injury, or lack of psychological intensity in the training that is required.  It could arise as a relationship problem with someone close to you that takes your attention off the prize in order to deal with any of the above problems.  This is where  I/you must decide that these things will not stop you no matter how badly they damage your current Herculean training.  The prize must be revisited and all adjustments to continue my quest have to be made.  Each of us knows what has to be done when “you can’t have it all” along the way.  A perfect path to the top is never and option.  We have to decide that we can and will persist on our journey. We have to focus our attention away from the injury whether it be physical or emotional.

Recently, I experienced a major sense of loneliness that translated itself into a feeling of despondency and as a result some very sub par workouts.  I’m not absolutely sure what caused the drop in intensity but I can tell you in no uncertain terms that it was devastating and it seemed like the journey would end because, “I didn’t have it all.”  My family also suffered right alongside DAD and Doug as I pushed into the darkness and out the other side.

After a couple of weeks the fog began to lift.  I dug in HARD being more determined than ever to not let this emotional downturn ever get me again. Even with this determination, there are times when I feel myself slipping into one of these rooms of discouragement. The antidote is ALWAYS to “encourage myself in the Lord his God”

I don’t “have it all” but I am absolutely certain that one day I will “have it all.”  This is the objective of my life

This is “OUR TIME.”  Stay focused, stay energized, never say no to the WIN! Always say NO to the discouragement of “not having  it all.”  There is no other way!

In this state of depression, our workouts, though sub par, have to continue.  We have to reach down deep inside and grasp the components that are needed to take that next step forward.  We have to decide that there is nothing in this world more important than our goal attainment.

When “we can’t have it all” then we have to reach deep to salvage and to apply “what we can.”  The key to winning in this situation is found in our hearts. Somebody once said, “Trials don’t make men.  Trials reveal the man.”  Be determined to be the type of man or woman whose character will be a shining example to all those who come after you.  Never give up on your objectives.  But, you have to know how to negotiate an obstacle that threatens to derail you.

Reach deep and show yourself what sort of person you are when “having it all” is not an option. Until Next Time!

Douglas E. Graham

I have had a very bad time gaining weight due to my “over-the-top” metabolism.  My core body temperature and my basal metabolic rate in conjunction with heavy training causes a caloric burn rate that exceeds my food intake.  I lie awake at night and I sweat quarts of water that leaves a very clear outline of my body on the sheets.  Christine and I have tried to keep up with my caloric burn rate by stuffing me with massive amounts of food (7,000 calories taken in per day).  Slowly, my body weight and my Body Fat per cent has crept upward.  Today, I weigh 203.5 lbs (I started at 173.2 lbs in June 2014) and my frame is much thicker.  Justin Dees (my coach) continues to push me to pack on the weight and muscle until he says “UNCLE”.  At that point I begin to prep for the stage in July 2015.

In the past week or so my wife has followed my coach’s admonition to have me eat frequently, eat much, keep the protein high, keep the carbs high  and train like a demon. My weight has risen and my coach has noticed…..All this is good and I am that much closer to the goals we have set.

Justin, hit me with a scientific/experiential fact last night during training at his gym in South Jordan, Utah. He said, “When we have gotten you packed with as much muscle as we can put on your frame, we will then ‘Grow you into your Stage Body!”  This whole idea of growing into my stage body after pounding in food, supplements, and training like a beast just turned all of my paradigms on competition preparation on it’s ear!  I’ve always believed that you got big and then you “cut your body into your Stage Body” which implies losing weight and giving up some muscle.  What he went on to say is, “We will simply cut away the fat you’re taking in and the salt and the water slowly over time.”  Carbs and proteins are still on the table, if I am interpreting what he said correctly.  When I tried to question him further, he stopped me with a bit of conventional wisdom, “Don’t worry about it.  You train and pack on the muscle and let me worry about this.”

My coach is outstanding and he has redirected me to focus only on what I have been instructed to worry about today and to accomplish the task before me.  It is this sort of guidance, even for an old guy like me, that has kept me going without going stark, raving, mad due to so many things to worry about.  Perspective, Perspective, Perspective.  Mine and the Coaches Perspective.  I only have to carry my portion of the burden and for this I am grateful.  Thus, I can “TURN UP MY EFFORT” as I prep for the challenge ahead because I don’t have to give attention to that which I am not responsible for.  Whew!!!

Learning to “TURN UP OUR EFFORT” is a lesson for all of us.  Learning to unburden ourselves from things that will hinder our effort is just as important.  Letting your friends, coaches, family members, and fans pick up the slack when it’s appropriate is required—or we will fail.  My take home in all this is: Rarely, does anybody carry all the burden themselves when a major undertaking is launched.  All of us need wisdom and a heavy dose of humility to allow the best helpers to under gird us during our quest.  In my world, this is a “MAXIM.”  I didn’t say I was smart.  But, I will always maintain that once a lesson is learned, IT STAYS LEARNED.

I leave this small nugget of truth with you for you to integrate into your quest preparation. THIS IS OUR TIME!  We cannot screw it up, lest we fail.

Until next time!

Douglas E. Graham

We always want things to be perfect or moving toward perfection in as straight a line as is possible.  When we close our eyes and imagine the way things ought to be, there is a never ending panorama of goodness and victories with never a failure, setback, or sidetrack.  We pump our fists skyward in celebration as we conjure up the image of our arrival at our final destination in glory. (Pretty Heady Stuff to legends in our own minds).

This month of October has presented things that totally defeated the “dream” of victory accomplished along a perfect trajectory.  I am exhausted but not bowed.

I have a goal of competing at 212 lbs in the National Bodybuilding Championships in July 2015.  I have had a hell of a time getting to 200 lbs.  My metabolism is so high that in the face of between 5,000 & 7,000 calories per day I would actually lose weight.  I would describe this phenomenon as extremely weird.  I train very hard 6 days per week. I take all the right supplements.  I eat as much protein and carbs as my little body can absorb each day.  I’m sleeping much better now as well.  I have been faithful to the plan outlined by my coach Justin Dees and things have progressed well but very slowly.

Finally, a week ago I hit 199.6 lbs and I was ecstatic.  My son comes home from the University of Utah and begins to throw up.  Within 2 days, I begin the toss my cookies, with an associated fever, body aches, chills, nausea, and extreme weakness.  You guessed it!  I lost 8 lbs in 36 hours.  I fought through this episode of flu-like symptoms and got back to the gym.  In fact, I missed training only once during the illness.

After, I had gotten better I got a severe cold accompanied by nasal congestion and cough. This went on for several days and my weight hovered between 193 and 196lbs.  Then, after about 5 days I pushed myself to eat and my weight was back up to 200 lbs even.  I decided to visit my coach.  I walked in his front door and it was obvious that he was feeling very badly himself.  He had been with diarrhea, fever, chills, nausea, body aches etc.  I only stayed for about 1.5 minutes I sware.  I went home and thought to myself, “boy, he sure looks rough.”  Within 12 hours I had another episode of the flu with diarrhea, fever, chills, weakness, body aches, chills.  I was again down for the count.  This time, after 4 days I had lost another 8 lbs and I was still extremely weak.  I repeated the intense workouts during the illness.  I could not eat very much at each meal due to the nausea and the subsequent diarrhea. My weight dropped to 192.4 lbs.

Today, was much better with my weight skyrocketing back to 198.6 lbs this afternoon.  I am feeling better and I’m back on track.

As the story above describes.  I was not headed to victory without some turbulence, slow downs, and good old fashioned, ILLNESS to try my soul.  Each episode illustrates and underlines the basic fact inherent in any quest—-that the path is NEVER straight and NEVER void of trials, slow downs, and outright failures.  This is to just state the obvious of course.  But, what is the required response? What should our strategy be when things have taken a tributary.  Let me try to put one single process into our heads that provides a focus for us to keep on keeping when things go poorly.

When things go awry and I am totally taken off the path to victory there are a few steps that absolutely must be taken to get back on track:

1.)  I must never “Lose Track of the Goal:
“Please know that that “where there is no vision for any of us we will not succeed”—-I do tons of “heart work” to nail down what I want to accomplish and why I want to do it.  I determine in the very beginning that NOTHING will get in my way to make the prize mine. Thus, during a time when I am thrown off the path I will not “forget” my destination.

2.) I must “Suffer/Survive the “Tributary Event”
Surviving the disaster is absolutely important.  Dead soldiers never fight another day.  All of our energies have to be invested in survival so we can get back on track.

3.)  I must “Rehab” from the “Tributary Event”
Once Survival has happened we have to rehab and make ourselves strong in order to proceed.  Take a breath of fresh air.  Stretch your limbs. Go for a walk.

4.)  I have to “Reload” my strategy and effort
Reload at this point.  Reform your strategy if it’s required. Maybe even redo your thoughts about why this objective is so important.  It’s a bit of gut check to validate the effort and the way forward.  If all systems check out—-GET GOING!

5.)  I “Proceed” to accomplishing my dream
Proceed with the gusto!  Leave everything you just experienced in your rear view mirror because it is only a drag on your forward progress.  Unless there is another “Tributary Event” I/you will be champions.

These are principles that have presented themselves to me over and over again during my quest and especially during the times when things are not going my way.  Sometimes these seeming catastrophes are not quite so bad so long as I/we have a strategy to hold onto and to exercise.  Having these steps firmly in mind for the bad times is part of preparation for the journey.

Always remember that this is “OUR TIME” and it these are “OUR” goals and “OUR” dreams to be had.  Nobody can take them away from us lest we self-eliminate by not believing we can attain our own levels of greatness in this life.  This has been good to explain these requisite steps to “get out of the ditch” and back on the path to your goals and dreams.  Until next time.

Douglas E. Graham

Nobody said this journey was going to be easy.  I’ve accepted the the challenge to grind out the daily work, to sweat, to hurt, to rise early to train, to accept the various pieces of advice from my coach, Justin Dees.

However, in the midst of all this is the stark reality that the trek to the top is long and oftentimes lonely.  It is during these times when everything we aspire to seems to be far, far ahead and unreachable that discouragement causes a bit of aimlessness.  I find myself tempted to cut some corners by stopping short of total exhaustion in my workouts which is required for maximum gains.  I begin feeling like I am the only dummy in the world pursuing dreams like this.

No matter what, I push forward for the “prize that is set before me.”  I force myself to take much shorter looks at the path ahead. I make small mini-sets of plans and goals to keep me on track and motivated.  In fact,  I have divided up the year at the direction of my coach into 4 quarters (I just finished quarter #1) with very specific things to accomplish during each quarter.  So far, he says I am way ahead of the pace.  I’ve gained a pound or more each week for the last 13 weeks.  I am hovering between 191 and 195 lbs. My body fat is 5.2%, my lean muscle has gone from 167 lbs to 181 lbs.  My goal is to compete in the Nationals at 212 lbs in July 2015.  If I make this weight and look lean, cut, shredded, and huge, I will step onto the stage and it will “TILT!”

The key to a “long and winding road” to the top is being able to break up the trip into bite size pieces and then pace yourself.  For each segment set goals within each segment and construct plans to accomplish each small goal.  The vector is set but the trajectory can change if we do not plan well.

Lastly, one of the chief things that will fog your mind is the chorus of naysayers and scorners who would steal your dream.  If you listen to them you will fail.  By listening to them you give them power that they would not have otherwise. So, as it says in the Bible, “and Jesus set his face like flint toward Jersusalem.”  We must do the  same.  We must set our faces like flint toward our goal.  In my case it is “Pittsburgh.”

Take the long look and know it will be lonely and hard.  It truly will be “the road less traveled.”  But!! This is your road because you chose it.  Do not look back and do not give up.

This is OUR time!  No matter how hard it is or unpopular it is, nobody can take it away from us unless we surrender it. So, finish well and set the pace for the others who also need some inspiration to do better and to be better than they are.

Until next time!

Douglas E. Graham

Man!  Have you ever been cruising  along accomplishing anything and everything that you touch when, POW!!!! Something happens to totally stop you in your tracks?  All of us have testimonials to these horrors that can make us downright suicidal if we let them. Let me be selfish here and tell you about the “POW” event that I just experienced.

Story:

I was training hard each and every morning with my magnificent wife who stays close to me always.  As you know, my goal given to me by my coach, is to move my weight up from 173 lbs (22 June 2014) at last contest to between 198 lbs and 212 lbs for the nationals in July 2015.  I was up to 195 lbs and eating 5,000 – 7,000 calories per day and all seemed perfect and on schedule……Suddenly, my son comes home with nausea, vomiting, fever, body aches, chills, headache, diarrhea, serious fatigue etc.  I picked him up at the train station (he goes to the University of Utah and commutes south to Provo) and he was quaking and baking with rigors.  He turns up my car heater to full blast and he wraps himself in the blanket I brought along.  His teeth chattered and he shook violently all the way home.  Upon arriving at home he tossed his ill body into bed and he stayed there all night.  His illness went on like this for a couple of days and he crapped so much that I thought he was going to totally dehydrate from the loss of body fluids.  Eventually, he got better and he returned to his life as a pathetic student.

About 2 days later, I got the same illness with all of the same manifested symptoms.  I weighed 195 lbs and I was eating like a horse and training like a dog when “the train ran over me.”  I hit the bed and pulled all the covers over me.  I breathed very heavy as my fever went through the ceiling.  I sucked down Aleve, Advil, Aspirin until my ears began to ring.  Summarily, after 3 days I finally started to get better.  That day is today.  The net result is that I have lost 7 lbs in 2.5 days and I feel very icky!  Dumb as I am I went the gym 2 out 3 of my sick days to work out.  I am still with a “chippy” stomach but I am again pounding down the food to make up for what I did not take the last 3 days.  I ate 8 eggs, 1 bagel with slathering of butter, 1 slice of toast.  Later, I ate 4 oz. Rice, 3 Tbsp Mayonnaise, some vegetables, 8 ounces of chicken breast, and 3 pieces of pizza with an avocado….Much more food to eat today and everyday.

When I saw that I had lost 7 lbs I was crest fallen.  All that work, I moaned!  All I could think about is how I was going to put it all back.  I thought my coach was going to brain me for being so stupid to allow myself to be infected. I was a nervous wreck and a basket case.

I took a page out of my wife’s playbook.  She is forever saying that we can change the way we feel by how we think.  She quite literally, can will an illness to go away.

I have changed my fatalistic approach to recovery with optimism.  I didn’t get this big by working less but by working more.  So, I sat for a minute and mulled my other options. After awhile, I made up my mind to NOT accept what comes.  I HAD to gain that weight back and I could not wait.  I wrote a note to my coach telling him what happened.  I got my butt up off the floor (literally) where I was sulking and jumped in the shower with my wife who was getting ready to go to the gym herself.  Bang! (not really) we were back on the same sheet of music and we were moving again.  I was determined to put Christine’s “MOJO” to work for me this time rather than make fun of her as usual.

My workout today was “awesome!”  I pushed my triceps, biceps, and traps to new areas of pain.  I was exhausted and now I am happy again to be on the trail.  Thank you to God for allowing me to see the error of my ways in my wife.  I will keep you posted as I move ahead.  However, the big lesson here is that we “REALLY” can change how we feel and respond to life by changing the way we think of our challenge.

Let me submit to all of us that since this is “OUR TIME” we direct our energies toward the problem at hand rather than the feelings of defeat we feel.  The problems are real but the feelings belong to you “for the changing.”…..if you choose!

Douglas E. Graham

When I began this quest, “To be the best there ever was” (Quote from Robert Redford in The Natural) I had no idea whether accomplishing such a lofty and heady goal was even remotely possible.  Now, after 5 years of grueling training, dieting, supplementing, sacrificing very good things so I could be something better, I am poised to go much further. So, the process continues.

I recall when I first circled the date on the calendar of my first contest.  I gritted my teeth with determination and drew a very neat circle around the contest date.  Once that circle was placed on the calendar, the commitment was made and all things “muscle” suddenly imposed itself on me. With the exception of my wife, nothing else mattered from that day forward until I finished this Competition.

All of this in my life, as it is in yours originates deep in the “heart.” There has to be a “mind- heart” connection in very beginning—with the end in mind. Each of us must decide that our goal is attainable or it least worthy of our pursuit.   I would also insert that we/I must develop “self talk” that draws it’s inspiration from our “hearts” which has accepted the challenge of attainment.  Our “self talk” has to reinforce our trajectory toward our goals. The “self talk”  between our minds, and our “hearts” keeps us focused, driven, and encouraged to keep going when persisting seems to be too great.

The necessity to pull on the “matters of the heart” to propel us forward is paramount because it is in the “heart” where great efforts are conceived, gestate, and are pushed into the world.  We have to keep our goals and life aspirations ever present before our minds as we proceed to victory. Do keep muttering to yourself. Keep praying that you will have the energy to continue.  If you must, talk out loud so that you hear the words of the actual goal. Get in front of a mirror and restate your objective out loud.  Try to use this face time to try to dissuade yourself from actually taking on the effort to win.  What you will find is that no matter what you present to your “heart and mind,” you will be more encouraged to proceed toward the trophy.  Extract the truth from your own “heart,”-— “for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.”  The mind, heart, and mouth” must agree in order to get going.

I met with my coach twice in the last 5 days.  His first comment was, “Bro, you’re awesome and you’re getting bigger.” (I’ve gained nearly 25 lbs. since 22  June 2014).  My coach went on to say, “We are going to get you into such good shape for the contest that we are going to: 1.) Kick some ass. 2.) Mop the floor with our competitors. 3.) Get my pro Card.  These words and many others uttered by my coach will carry me each day as I train in preparation for the Nationals in July 2015.  I will hide them in my heart and draw on them daily when I’m quiet and when I am training.

When your “heart” is broken only bad and sad things find their way into the world around you. When your “heart” is focused on where you are going then all of your energy is used in fighting through obstacles and getting to the pinnacle you have chosen.

My wife Christine is a big fan of changing her life by changing how she thinks.  Because of this, I am the beneficiary of goodness that I do not deserve.

We, who are a little older, must use the dreams, hopes, and and desire of our “hearts” to motivate us to win.  We have lived lives of great honor and it’s now “OUR TIME” to set the pace for those who come after us.  We must show them how to win by our examples. In many cases, it’s our last chance to make a difference.

Thank all of you for being interested enough to follow my quest for a National Bodybuilding Championship.  If I win, we all win…..Because what we want we can have!

Missing all of you acutely

Douglas E Graham

I am absolutely certain that all of us has walked through a gym for the first time and felt out of place, embarrassed, intimidated, and with every step we wished we were any place else in the Universe.

We check in and make our way to the machines or barbells or dumbbells that we had spotted — about a mile from where we were,  With each step we became increasingly convinced that everybody in the gym was eyeballing us, sizing us up, and making very nasty judgments about or physical state.  If we were experiencing these things we also probably had a very heavy flow of sweat pouring off our head, down our face, into our eyes and ending up on the floor in great droplets.

As we begin our training that first day, we are aware of couple of positive items: 1.)  It;s hard but we are not as bad as “some others.”  2.)  There are a few nearly perfect physical specimens near by and we cannot stop wishing that we could look like them.  Its this second group that I would like to focus on.

When we see that “perfect” body that we long to have ourselves, we can do one of two things: First, we could conclude that we could never have a body that good so I will not try very hard or I will be “envious” and jealous and determine that we will pour it on, learn as much as possible about how “he/she” got to where they are.  Then, construct a plan of action to try to catch them.  Maybe even surpass them.  This is the preferred response when we are confronted with somebody who is better because they paid the price and thus are better.  It’s very important to be gutsy and determined to not be blown off course or out of the gym simply by an encounter.

Let me tell you a story:  When I started training again in 2008, it seemed like everybody was further along than me.  I wore heavy cotton sweats, T-shirts, sweat pants, and a ball cap.  I told myself that I needed to wear these clothes because that’s the way I’ve always trained — in these damned hot clothes.  I was determined to persevere and be a little bigger and stronger.  I structured my workouts such that I was training twice per day.  I continued that habit for 5 years until my new coach demanded that I stop because I could not get any bigger if I was burning up my muscles at that rate.  I digress.

During those early days there was a couple of fellas that caught my eye due to their great physiques.  Try as I may I just could not seem to make the type of progress they seemed to be enjoying.  In short, I “Envied” them and wanted what they had.  So, I redoubled my efforts with no great improvements or gains.  Then one day I broke down and approached each of them individually to see what they were doing different than me to cause such magnificent growth and definition.  They did not tell me anything that I didn’t already know. So, instead of allowing them to become my mentors, they became my targets. I was determined to become like them.

My “Envy” ate me alive.  I ate, I lifted, I pushed myself, all the while keeping an eye on my new competitors.  I measured myself, I compared myself with them in the mirrors, I ate huge quantities of food.  Slowly, I seemed to be making gains that

allowed me to pull alongside them.  My “Envy” was pushing me to new heights of size and strength.  Unbeknownst to them, they had become another of a wide array of motivators in my arsenal.  My workouts had gone from ok to superhuman. 

About 2 years later, one of my competitors with whom I was very “envious” approached me to ask me, “What are you doing man?  When you first came in here you were small.  Now, you are huge,” (I started at the gym weighing 155 lbs and by this time I weighed 207 lbs.)  “Envy” had helped to transform me by pushing me to attain what I wanted by showing those whom I “envied” that I can be like them too.

I still have tons of people around me that I “Envy” but it’s interesting that I am now the one that others “Envy,”  It feels good to talk with a dozen or more friends and old competitors in the gym each time I train even if many of them were once my “Envied” counterparts.

My admonition to us all is that we allow, “Envy” to motivate us.  Don’t let  your current circumstances or status define you. Let things like “Envy” push us to catch the leader and pass him.  Have as your goal, the total dominance of your area of contest. Dig deep to find the guts to make life be yours for the taking.  Take your life by storm and don’t apologize to those who would steal your dreams or who would cause you to stop using “Envy” as a chief engine to drag you forward.

This is OUR TIME!  Use every tool at your disposal to advance, catch and win.  Dare the world to stop you.  Step around those who would say your are too old or think that old people should not be doing such things.  Grab hold of somebody that you “Envy” and place them ahead of you and GO CATCH THEM!

Here is a “toast” to “Envy” a POSITIVE motivator that can pull and propel us to victory.

Quote: “One Man With Courage, Makes A Majority!” —- Andrew Jackson

 

Douglas E. Graham

Well, let’s just say that I am a “creature of habit” and I derive much of my energy and focus from fixating on goals.  Sounds like I have a major case of “Obsessive Compulsive Disorder” (OCD) but it’s true. I am a home body and I love it when my wife and I converge on the house in the evening or any other time for that matter.  She is the woman I should have married in the first place but, I’ll take what she offers now without so much as a snivel.

As all of you probably know, I push myself hard every morning starting around 04:45 AM when our alarms go off.  That is just a warning shot for us to wake up, sit up, stand up, head for the John, weigh myself, set up and take all the supplements prescribed by my coach, get dressed, head down to the kitchen, eat breakfast that my wife cooks (8 eggs, 3 slices of toast with peanut butter, lemonade), then out the door to the gym.  Then, the grind begins and it lasts for about 1.5 hours.

I wanted to throw in another component that can and does from time-to-time destroy the spirit of the quest.  Let’s just call it, “unresolved conflicts/issues of the heart.”  I know this is vague but let me explain a little further so there is no real confusion.

Let’s suppose you and your wife have something between you that has not ever been resolved.  Instead you step around it until the bubble bursts.  Then, for the next few days or a week the simmering and hurt and all the rest preoccupies you.  It’s, in fact, so preoccupying that you cannot apply yourself at the same level or intensity during workouts.  

Another example, is when there is a sick child in the home.  

Another one is when there is stress on the job and you spend most of your waking hours puzzling over the resolution.

In each example (and there are hundreds of actual ones) the key element is “Distraction.”  Your whole soul gets taken away to another place.  Our attention on our training or the attainment of our own personal goals is blunted.  I think we all can relate to this scenario.

I don’t have a specific answer to each item any of us is wrestling with.  I do however, encourage us to resolve what we can as quickly as we can.  With my wife, it is easy to sit with some sort of hot drink and pour our hearts out to get back on track.  If the problem was a “conflict” then getting back on track can be MAGNIFICENT…..

Sick kids are a different thing altogether.  

True Story:  I first competed in bodybuilding in 1990.  It was great and I was training for another competition when two things occurred that threw me off.  First, my wife withdrew her support for me to compete.  Second, my 11 year old son Nathan got Leukemia.  These two items occupied me 24/7.  Knuckling under to not compete was tough, but the possibility of losing my little boy was overwhelming.  We went through hell and back.  Nate survived and after 5 years was declared cured after being in remission with the very likelihood that the Leukemia could come back at anytime over that 5 year period.  I am so happy to have him as my son and best of all “friend.”

No matter what the “Distraction” you need a back up plan to turn to when things are not good.  Some “Distractions” are in place for a long time and must be dealt with as such.  Resolution is always the bottom line.  I say that we will win only if we develop a solid set of skills to blunt the effects of the “Distraction” so you can continue.  I believe this is vital to being able to cope better with tough situations that threaten to paralyze us and to cause us to self-eliminate. I don’t have a “Cook Book” set of recipes for you to peruse and select from.  Sorry!

Sorry to ramble.  I just checked the calendar and my next competition is only 7 months away and I’m already trying to get rid of all “Distractions.”  My how time flies.  My size is enormous for my height 5’5″ on a good day and I now weigh 194 lbs with a body fat of 6% and lean body mass of 181 lbs. I may even get bigger.  I’m out to win and I must stay on track without looking to right or to the left.  My poor wife gets the brunt of an absent-minded husband during these ascents to the next stage.

We will win together!  This is OUR TIME!  Do not let anything get in your way as you push on towards the goal. Next summer I will be in Pittsburgh, PA to put it all out there!  Tell me when you will arrive at your destination. We can celebrate together if you’d like.

Just some thoughts for you to consider.  Resolution of Distractions is essential to keep climbing at the same rate.

 

Douglas E. Graham