Six Pack and Senior

Almost everything in the world is governed by gravity and downward pressure. It’s easy to live in this environment as long as we settle for walking at the lowest point that downward pressure will push us to. No questions asked. This is it. No muss no fuss. The problem begins when we decide to rise above what is prescribed for us in this world. When we decide that we want something more than we have there must be a supreme effort to overcome the natural inertia that binds us to the lowest common denominator.

In bodybuilding, as in any endeavor, there is a moment when we decide what we want. That fixes our vision. Next we have to count the cost. Then we lay out a plan to reach our new set of goals. It is at this point that we start experiencing the downward pull in new ways. It feels like we may have bitten off more than we can chew. After several attempts to start and to progress we contemplate quitting. Our self-talk sounds like, “its too hard. or “maybe I’m not cut out to do this.” The biggest and most virulent excuse is when we say to ourselves, “I don’t care anyway.” All of these excuses are traps. They rob us of our dreams, our vision, and our person. It’s here that we have to “grow up” and take responsibility for our desire and decision to go after our dreams.

Sometimes when we are on the road to accomplishing our goals that we have to decide when to try again when we fail, and when to pack it in and say enough for today or enough for this exercise. It’s here that we learn to give our effort one more time or one more rep or one more set. It’s here that personal and physical growth occurs. It’s the leading edge of our effort. “ONE MORE TIME” is sometimes all we have left in the tank.

Seated presses does it for me. I set rather lofty goals during my sessions that involve increasing sets and reps with increasing weight. I put a mark on the wall of my mind to work toward. I dare not stop until I reach it. When I’m close I often have to do some introspection to determine whether I have a single rep left to give. When I finish the set and my last rep expended…….I quit! But not until I know I’ve given my all. Growth in the heart, the mind, muscles, generates confidence and the “WANT TO.”

To win you have to lose yourself in your effort. You have to know you are going to lose more often than you win. Each loss is nothing more than a stepping stone to your ultimate chosen goal.

Let me say inclosing that if you want to win you have to do the work and expect nothing before it’s time. You have to tty again and again. Be encouraged by your progress and don’t lose heart.

THIS IS YOUR LIFE AND THESE ARE YOUR TROPHIES. PUSH AND ALWAYS “GET UP ONE MORE TIME!”

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Doug Graham

Deciding that we are entering a world that supremely honors winners means we have to be sure that we define our victories, how we are going to go about winning, and “WHEN” we are going to win. Most of us enter things that we have never done before because we somehow believe that doing this ‘THING” is the way to go. Each person has their own reasons for doing what we do and most, if not all of our relatives, friends, or colleagues will never understand nor will they take the time to figure out what makes us tick.

When I was old and already lived a great and satisfying life I decided to do bodybuilding. This decision has caused much criticism and consternation among my family member and relatives. The predominant question is “WHY/” I’ve tried to learn what these people thought as I discussed my experiences in preparation for contests, my trophies, my journey and I have heard many responses. I’ll share just one that is both validating and perplexing at the same time.

First, all of us who are bodybuilders want to win. Then, when we realize that we cannot win every time we step onto the stage we begin to understand that the bigger prize is to compete against ourselves to get better each time. It all culminates in us being in the best shape of our lives on the night of the show. Winning and being at our best are the goals and we put in the effort. Sometimes against all odds and inconveniences. Plus, we get to see our muscle head friends again. Everybody wins! I must understand that winning is never something that is ours just because we show up. It may not be immediate but you can bet that ultimately I will win. The journey to the top is its’ own reward. Back to work!!

The perplexing item is that some of my family believe that I am doing this mighty effort late in my life so that they will like me better. Hahahahaha! I love them because I love them. I have nothing to prove and nothing to win that will substitute for our great love and affection. Oh well! Part of pursuing something that is bigger than ourselves brings out the naysayers and doubters.

We have to determine and know that all of us will win…..WE WILL DEFINITELY WIN! Just stick with it. Never look back. Double down on your effort and commitment. Ignore your family and friends that who don’t believe in you and I promise you that if you do, they will be converted to your most ardent supporters and fans. Loving them is one thing but having them respect you is quite another. GO FOR IT GANG!—–AND WIN!

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Here are a few shots I’ve had in my gallery for awhile. I hope you enjoy them! Please feel free to forward this article to anybody you think might be interested. Go. to http://www.sixpackandsenior.com

Doug

Two Rules in life: 1.) Never Quit and 2.) Always remember Rule#1

When I was growing up with little to qualify me for anything. We were so poor that on Sunday mornings I used to get up hungry. Put on my shorts, shirt, and tennis shoes, jump on my bike and go looking for a friend who would invite me to breakfast. After a mooched breakfast I was ready for the day. The other six days in the week were days without breakfast before school. Lunch was a feast.

I tell you this little story to set the stage for the kind of determination that I had to generate to be better than I was. There is no space for pity or self doubt, only the dream of earning my way out of this condition that I did not ask for.

Despite all this I played every sport available. I settled on Baseball, track, and football even though I was best cut out to be a wrestler. I was driven by the idea that I too could be respected and I wanted to be a winner. I did not want to be regarded as the poor kid who would live down to the expectations of others.

One of my football coaches said to me that “I had to play big_ I could note “QUIT.” He would yell at me, smack me on the helmet when he thought I wasn’t giving it my all. He took me into his office one time and explained that I had to be better and that he was depending on me to be better. He would not accept anything less. I responded in a big way. Next game I had 18 tackles paying linebacker, blocked a punt, intercepted two passes. Quitting had just disappeared from my vocabulary and belief system.

not These early lesson have not been wasted on bodybuilding which I took up much later in life. Learning to push when others rested. Never being satisfied with the training or the results. Always assessing my physique, refining and redefining my training plan to correct deficiencies real and imagined. Going into the gym early and staying to the end.

The results for this older guy has ben great. I just. finished my 22nd contest and earlier this year I turned 70 years old. I can tell you that if I had “QUIT” there would not be the super satisfaction I get from competing and winning. The numerous trophies and medals are significant because I did not “QUIT”

I write this to you my friends to say that you can have most things in life if you will persist and don’t “QUIT!”—Quitting is never and option. Keep at it and good things will come your way!

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Being “Average” sucks. Nothing could be worse than being lukewarm as a person who makes no noise, cannot commit themselves to an opinion or position, who has no vision of being better. How can we push ourselves forward if we are unwilling to take a chance and put yourself out there to win. In fact, nobody wants to be defined by the word “AVERAGE.”

An old memory comes back to me that illustrates when my mind and will was changed.

“I came back into the locker room at half time during a football game and I was disgusted with my performance. I threw my helmet on the floor. My coach walked over to me and said to me, “Doug, you have to play “BIG.” Those words ignited in me a desire to be far better than I was. I went back out onto the field looking for a fight. I played way above anything that I had ever done before. The new mindset was established.” Since then I have desired “GREAT!” as the only standard for performance. Anything less for a focus is unacceptable. I will not settle for “AVERAGE.” It’s all or nothing with “GREAT” being the end game.

It’s imperative that we define ourselves AS “GREAT!”——we have to be the person that places our ultimate goal on the table and pursues it with every ounce of energy we can muster. There has to be nothing standing between me and my goal. The very thought of being “AVERAGE” has to be totally abandoned. There is no room for “AVERAGE” —there is only “GREAT” on my scope!

It may sound like I’m conceited but I’m not! This is the level of self-confidence that I/we have to have to shed an “AVERAGE” performance or existence.

Bottom Line: Life is hard. Each of us defines who we are and what we want. I would urge all of us to desire “GREAT” because being “AVERAGE” is never an option. Being “GREAT” is my/our desire. Don’t settle!

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Everybody who has ever picked up a weight knows that consistency of effort on a daily basis is how muscle is made. It takes tons of concentration to continue subjecting ourselves to maximum effort. There are times when getting out the door in the morning is just about too much. There are times, even after arriving at the gym, that we would rather be anywhere but in the gym. For one reason or another we just don’t always have the push that is required to train effectively. When these situations occur (and they will) we have to reach deep and latch onto our “WILLPOWER” to move to the next task and eventually to the next level. Nothing is free and we have to apply all that we have to advance and to win. In fact, as noted above, “WILLPOWER IS A MUSCLE AND THE MORE WE USE IT THE STRONGER IT GETS.”

I can think of the many times in my career that the tank was empty and I was tempted to omit training that day. When this happens it’s important to do a moment’s reflection on how far I have come and why I started in the first place. I just can’t let a single emotion or temptation derail me. The fire in the belly is burning very low. This is the point where, “WILLPOWER” comes into play. This is when we dig deep inside ourselves and by sheer at of the “WILL” that we press on.

Often, once we start the fire returns. This is an amazing truth that cannot be ignored. We have to determine to do the work and then we get to witness God lifting us up to be better. I have no other explanation for the massive change in our attitudes that occurs when we press forward with our “WILLPOWER” doing the discipline and dragging us forward. Its happened this way hundreds of times for me.

There is no magic! It’s all about how badly you want something. Our “WILLPOWER” is often the thing that keeps us on course toward victory.

If something is worth having or accomplishing we have to use “WILLPOWER” to get the job done and win. There just aren’t any short cuts or alternatives. Love what you do and when things are tough reach for “WILLPOWER” to win. You will not regret it.

Use the great and powerful muscle known as “WILLPOWER” often. It will only get stronger as we use more and more frequently. Push hard and goal will appear.

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There are no shortcuts to the win!

When the “dye is cast” and you have gone all in on a show or a goal, there is no other way to get there and perform well except to “WORK FOR IT.”

How many times have we read the bold head lines to an article or book or video that stated, “THE QUICK EASY WAY TO…….” or the author trumpets, “GIVE ME A WEEK AND I WILL TURN YOU INTO A CHAMPION.” Well, once again I’m here to tell you that these are lies and there is rarely anything that is “quick and easy.” There is no person on earth that can make a champion out of any man in a week. Let’s talk about truth. Let’s talk about what it takes to be a “CHAMPION.”

First of all once you have zeroed on the target —-Get to work! Time is wasting and you don’t have a minute to spare. This is what has to go through your head. Create that sense of urgency and excitement that drives you forward. Only YOU can generate that massive amount of energy and effort that is required to prepare and win. You have to want this contest to go well more than anything else. Essentially, life stands still for you until it’s done. Nothing else matters!

I encourage myself and you to set up and stick to a training regimen that culminates in the win. Every moment of every day is to be tracked, no workouts are missed, superior effort must be exerted with each training session. The path ahead must be purposeful, aggressive, and measured. Nothing is to be left to chance.

REMEMBER! Nobody is going to give you anything. It all has to be earned and all of us must ‘WORK FOR IT.” There is no other way. Nothing is quick and easy.

For now suffice it to say that I am in show prep and I’m on track. Got to still lose about 7 lbs. over the next 10 days. I’m on it. I’m doing the cardio x 2 hours each day. Hundreds of crunches. Two workouts per day. Sticking to the diet that will get me extremely lean. Posing with my wife for 30-60 Minutes per day. Music routine needs to be brought current. As noted above, nothing can be left to chance.

This is where I’m at and what I’m willing to work for. Write to me and tell me where you’re at, where you want to go, and how you’re going to get there. Maybe I can help a little.

THIS IS YOUR LIFE AND YOUR JOURNEY. WHATEVER YOU SEEK TO ACHIEVE WILL REQUIRE SUPREME EFFORT TO EARN. NOTHING WILL BE GIVEN TO YOU. ALWAYS REMEMBER TO BE ABOUT YOUR FATHER’S BUSINESS—–AND WIN!

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As I’ve discussed before, When we decide to do something that is totally ours, we have to get alone and do some serious soul searching about “Why” we want to do it. All of us has to understand that when we launch ourselves in a direction that is not usual or normal or predictable to those around us they will notice. Some will be doubtful of your new found direction but they will be at least respectful. Others will see that you are trying to be better and they will do everything in their power to undermine you and discourage you. Both groups have to be ignored in order to get started. Eventually, you will need to tell them to stop being critical of your efforts. Doing bodybuilding, especially if you are older will attract a lot of judgmental attention laced with sarcasm, harshness, and discouragement.

When the rain comes from these personal friendlies we have two choices. 1.) Quit just so we don’t have to listen to their attacks, criticisms, and condescensions. or 2.) Push even harder past these losers. Don’t give up! Turn up the heat and the effort. In other words, don’t fall victim to the relentless series of attacks. Like one of my favorite female bodybuilders said recently, “There are those that do not agree with us. They need to be left alone. Then we surround ourselves with people of same mind and we go to work. Life is too short to argue with naysayers.” (paraphrase).

Naysayers will also start from the beginning and demand that we tell them “WHY” we are trying to do bodybuilding, especially at our age. It was very discouraging. Now that I’ve got a modicum of success they are aware that I am always stoked about training, I love messing around with my muscle head friends in the gym, that my suffering through pre contest prep, music preparation and routine practice, and competing is enjoyable. Today they are amazed with my accomplishments and the physique that has emerged. Now they want me to tell them how it all happened. What did I do? How did I do it? The perspective for my critics turned fans had to change. The process of transformation has caused a shift in their attitudes. We are again friends.

Bottom Line: Fear of being left behind often causes our best friends to question “WHY” we want to do bodybuilding especially at my/our age. Press on! Eventually, your critics will ask you “How you did it?” This to me is called personal victory! Nobody can ever take it away from you.

Push beyond personal attacks and discouragement. There is no other way forward except through the obstacles.

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In order to have anything we must develop a solid case of “WANT TO” which is to say that we will do whatever it takes to get the thing we desire most. We have to develop a very base need that can be equated to “HUNGER.” When we are hungry there is nothing that stands in the way of you who are hungry and that necessary meal. “HUNGER” for our goal must become a need that has to be satisfied. Thus, we will automatically create a mindset of “WANT TO.” THE “HUNGER” and the “WANT TO” are necessary and must travel together to win the day. Bodybuilding training is the clear demonstration of “WANT TO” but we cannot forget that it is the “HUNGER” that ignites it all.

Each of us has to decide what is important and worthy of our all out effort. Tons of thought and dreaming and planning must be done well in advance of starting the trek to be the best. So, take the time and know what you want first. Once you have selected your goal, ‘zero on it,’ laser on it’ make it the only thing important to you in the whole wide world. Nothing is accomplished when we apply ourselves part-time to the cause. The important things in life are attained when we pour in the effort full-time, completely, and totally.

Once the goal is decided on we have to pursue it as if we would die if we didn’t get it. “HUNGER” lights the trail ahead. Nobody can dissuade us. Failure is not an option. I “WANT TO” is my way of saving that I have a priority that needs addressing.

When I prepare for a contest I work very hard to create in me the 1-2 punch of “HUNGER” AND “WANT TO” so I can focus on the plan and the process. There is nothing left to chance in this sequence. The heart, the body, the effort, the stage, and the win.

In closing: Position yourself to be able to see the trophy. Get a handle on the basic psychology of winning. Plan and train like there is no tomorrow. If you do this, you will win….no matter what the target is. You have my word. So, Let’s together “climb the hill” because we are hungry……Doug

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Mental illness sometimes incorporates the term “OBSESSION” as if it is universally bad. I submit that another way to say it is “ASYMETRICAL” FOCUS.” When you set out to accomplish something that is very important to you there is no “YING and YANG.” Here “OBSESSION” and “balance” cannot coexist when maximum effort and laser-like focus is required to attain our goals.

How many times has each of us heard a well-meaning friend or relative say to us, “Just Relax Bro!” or “Take it Easy” or here’s a good one, “I know you’re working hard but I just don’t want you to get hurt!” Each of these has the net effect to cause us to believe that winning happens while you rest or sleep or are otherwise engaged in something pleasant. Nothing could be further from the truth. Simple inspection tells us that there is a beginning and an end. It’s up to us to determine that the end is worth it and then to go about the business of planning, execution, and staying focused on the stated goal.

Character by way of the work ethic is forged and lowered into place. We put on our “big boy pants” and do the journey to the top. We have to obsess, believe, and know in our souls that with each passing workout we are getting closer to having the best package to achieve the goal.

Bottom Line: Make it your business to win. It will involve nothing less than your best! Think Asymetrical Focus. Learn it, obsess over it, and make it operative. This is not the domain of the ‘Ying and Yang.”

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Overcoming all that others have planned for us is a daunting task. But, if we are to be better or different we have to dream, think, pray, and act on our own vision of ourselves.

Respect is what drives most of us guys to be the best at what we do. There is a high probability that a guy will live down to the expectations that has been given him, Or, conversely he will live up to the expectations that have been programmed into him from his earliest years. We guys are weird creatures and each of us is as different as snowflakes. However, there is a shared deep seated desire or requirement for guys to exist and advance. “HE MUST FEEL LIKE HE IS RESPECTED.” But, we all soon learn that respect must be won and it will never be just handed to us.

In bodybuilding as in life you start at the bottom and you begin the journey to the top. Nobody really sees who you are nor do they care. It’s at this stage of development that we must be well thought of by our trainers, or colleagues, our training partners, our families. We desperately want bodybuilding to be our reason and method to reach our goals and hopefully some respect. We choose bodybuilding because it provides a clear cut way forward but many people do not see it that way. They ridicule our efforts and down play our accomplishments even though they themselves have never attempted anything in the sport. All of us needs to have people around us that encourage us.

Respect in bodybuilding comes on a day by day, hour by hour basis. Initially, we are focused but we do not yet have the experience to accomplish anything. It’s the daily grind, that teaches the way to grow bigger, improve our stamina, define the physique we want.

Respect comes when the same people who disrespected us stop talking. Bad mouthing us ceases. I’ve often said that the best compliments are the ones that are unsolicited from others. That’s how you know the compliment is real and probably heartfelt. We must work hard with no thought of reward and no expectation that we will be singled out for praise. Our work ethic and character is being forged in the fire of effort and pain.

Slowly, we are changing into a person that our friends and family never envisioned us to become. Respect has been attained. This is the world we have chosen. This is ours and all the accomplishments and great results belong to us. Whatever others thought of us or predicted for us is no longer operative. We are different as bodybuilders and I’m betting that most people who saw us grow up never dreamed this was a possibility.

Bottom Line: We have done well “DANIELSON” (Mr. Miagi from Karate Kid) but it’s not what people thought. Nice work guys! Keep going.

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