Month: August 2024

The proverbial “ass kicking” is all but baked into the cake of life. Sooner or later we all get humiliated or driven into seeming obscurity. Sometimes it is through no fault of our own. We get ambushed by those who don’t like us and “POW!” we get one right in the kisser. Down we go and life seems very bad. The key to failure and future success is learning what we did wrong and to vow to never let the mistake never happen again. Thus, the wisdom of defeat. Why rise from the ashes of total annihilation only to do it again……We would then conceded that we didn’t learn a thing and we deserve what we get.

We have to know the difference between losing and learning and going on and the personal abandonment of quitting. In the world of a quitter there is only hostility toward ourselves, regret, loneliness, and a severe sense of loss. If the thing we sought is left on the side of the road like a discarded piece of trash we leave with it a piece of ourselves. The things we throw away are of two categories: 1.) We really didn’t want them that much anyway or 2.) We really wanted them but we didn’t have the guts to keep going and to accomplish them. So, before we toss something over our shoulder, let us think and consider what this thing means to us and how much we want it.

Deferring to bodybuilding I can say from experience that once the fire is burning and progress toward our stated goal is being made, it is a sacred decision to keep going. Never back down. Losing only happens on stage. Quitting happens in the heart and the head before you even show up. If you do it once, you run the risk of making quitting a way of life.

Bottom Line: Go after it an lose and then learn. Never quit because you run the risk of learning how easy it is. This is a lesson we need not learn.

There has always been this little motor inside me that pushes me, excites me, settles for nothing but the best or at least will get me into the fight. But, the most important thing is to know where you are going and that is more ugent than anything else in your life. This is you “WHY”….Simply stated it is the thing that drives you, that gets you up in the morning, that occupies your thoughts and pushes you to excel and win.

Not every “WHY” is attached to a contest. Many “WHY” mindsets are in place to move us to a better place economically, socially, or in relationships like our wives and our kids. Just imagine closing your eyes and thinking of where we want to be and holding it there. The imagination can define and direct us. Again when something or someone becomes our “WHY” there is nothing tht will get in our way to have and hold the “WHY” in our hands.

My “WHY” is loving my wife and having her approval and advice always. It’s quite impossible to live without her presence. In bodybuilding she has become my posing coach. She has a real knack to see my flaws and hold me accountable. If I need to do better or to change something she is merciless and my ego takes a beating but is she that pulls off the difficulties I face with her keen eye.

Lastly, find that thing and make it your “WHY”…..There’s an old saying that says, “HE THAT AIMS FOR NOTHING HITS IT EVERYTIME!” Do not let life become purposeless. It’s a oad that does not end well.

Bottom Line: Determine to be somebody or suffer the consequences of being nobody. It’s all up to you. Discover your “WHY” and be the best you.