How many times have we heard our parents or other caring people in our lives say to us, “Doug, you have to “find” yourself.” It always happens when we are at a key juncture in our lives. They mean well but the admonition always falls on deaf ears or is deflected by a hard and unwilling heart. All of our best people in our lives want only the best for us and for this we are grateful.
God wants us to work. There is honor in working. We are designed to work hard for what we want. Thus, the best we can do for ourselves is to decide what is most important to us. We have to decide that this thing is deserving of all our attention, hard work, and love. Once this is in place there is only the task of working hard to get it. It sounds simple but it is not simple as we all know.
In my humble opinion it’s at this point that we begin a metamorphosis to become that which is required to attain that which we want. It starts with a change of the mind. Wherever we were headed before must be abandoned and I dare say totally forgotten. This little exercise to change our compass is so hard that it wrecks many a good person. Instead of completing the about face the majority of men will begin to make excuses about why it’s not possible to move in a different direction to attain that which they have stated they wanted. For example, “Now is not the best time.” or “I have too many other things going on.” One of my favorites, “If I was like you I’d be able to make it happen.” In every case there is a reason to fail or to even start. But, forgetting those things that are behind us is absolutely necessary to go in a different direction.
Remaking ourselves into the person or champion we want to be is built on the premise that we have decided to be better and the full confidence that it will take herculean effort at times to do it. Each thing we cut off and leave behind is matched by the new things required to win. I submit that all of us can reshape and remake our beings as people y paying attention to the details required to overcome the things that hold us back and defeat us.
Never fall for the lie that anything is possible if we want it bad enough. Wanting something is not enough. We have to skillfully plan and execute what is needed to recreating ourselves.
Envision the body or accomplishment you desire. Get started cutting away anything that keeps us where we are. Pour yourselves into the effort to have what you desire. Never give away your dreams along with the person you want to become.
In closing, there is no such thing as wishing your goals into existence. You have to work like theres’s not tomorrow in order to become that new person…..You Must go about the business of creating yourself….Not finding yourself. That person does not exist.
Six Pack and Senior 