We all grow up with some encouragement and some discouragement but nonetheless — WE GROW UP! In the course of learning what life is all about we gather a number of negative proverbs or anecdotes from our parents, friends, coaches, teachers, colleagues, and others whom we respect. These little pearls of discouragements all too often are allowed to define us and to cause us to settle at a level of living that is far below what we are capable of. A good example would be, “If I were you I would do something else because you are just not cut out to do that.” Another one would be, “You’re just too small to do that.” Or, “You just don’t have the basic tools needed to be successful at that.” I would find something else that better suits you.”
Wow! We have all heard these exact things from some of our most respected and revered people in our lives. Sometimes that negative thing said to us has no immediate impact but as time goes by these little things get integrated into the person that we become. We stop reaching for the stars or the things that we are truly cut out to do.
My story revolves around bodybuilding. Members of my family knew I was intensely interested in bodybuilding and that I desperately wanted to learn how to compete and win. I was willing to go through the trials and the work required. I finally entered a contest in Arkansas where I finished fourth in my division. From that night on I was forbidden to think about competing in bodybuilding again. It was embarrassing and I didn’t do that well anyway. This being a major disappointment for me was an understatement. I tried for years to get back on stage and was met with scorn and discouragement. Eventually, I gave up trying.
Then, after my kids were all grown and I found myself with time on my hands I decided to start lifting weights again. After 3 years, 6 days per week of training I finally took off my shirt. My buddies in the gym saw me and told me I should compete. The rest is history and now bodybuilding is a quest for excellence. I have one of the best coaches in the world in Justin Dees and I have one of the greatest examples of consistency and discipline in his wife Heather Dees who just took home a third place finish at the 2018 Arnold’s Classic in Columbus, Ohio. I now am about to do what so many people in my past have said I could not do. I’m going to win the Nationals this year and gain my pro card.
I must remind you that all this is going to occur when most men my age have “packed it in” and have totally retired and have gone into sedentary mode before death. I have to win so I can “Be Somebody Nobody Thought I Could Be.” There is no turning back and I’m all in. I said something nice about Heather yesterday on Instagram exclaiming how she motivates me to be better. Justin came back with this, “Ahhh Yeahh!! Now, it’s your turn my friend!!!” This is my time and I am under construction! Thanks Justin and Heather!
In closing. My story is anecdotal but it applies to all of us. Decide what you want and become that person! “Be Somebody Nobody Thought You Could Be.”
See you guys again real soon. Until next time I remain, Douglas E. Graham, Lt Col, USAF, (ret), MHSM
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